I sometimes like to start out by explaining what’s going on while I’m blogging. Currently, I am in bed, wrestling with a biting, drinking baby who also insists on either pinching my lips with his hand or grabbing my arm pit hair …Glamorous I know!
Anyway, I wanted to talk about a subject that many people have strong opinions on. Public breastfeeding >>> cue the gasps and eye rolls<<< Here’s a little story.
To the Momma in the Target parking lot. You looked worn the hell out today. I know, I know, rude right? I’m not being rude because we have all been there. This is the second day I haven’t slept, brushed my teeth and barely changed my clothes – all week worn out! I know that look ALLLLLL too well, and still have those days even with a 9 month old.
Maybe you were paranoid? Maybe you were so tired you weren’t thinking straight? Either way, I felt for you.
You were parked across from me and sat there for a while. I whipped my boob out AGAIN for the 927629 time that day and it’s like it almost gave you the OK. I sat there for at least ten minutes before you emerged from the driver’s seat of your car. For a second, I thought you might come talk to me the way you just sat in your car looking at me. But…. you didn’t. You opened your passenger door and grabbed your baby. He looked older than mine, but then again that doesn’t take much. You then grabbed a nursing cover and with a deer in the headlights look you fought to cover his entire body and feed him in your front seat. You then kept turning your head, looking left and right, to make sure no one saw you.
Ok, I thought “I get it; she doesn’t feel comfortable” as I covered my mams back up and placed Jett in his car seat. But then it hit me…. Your car was turned off and have been sitting in your car for at least 15 minutes with your baby. It’s 81 degrees out today, SWEET Momma…. 81!
As I drove by you, it was like you were so embarrassed and you had the worst look on your face as you looked at me and looked down several times making sure you were still covered. I could see your baby attempting to push the cover off his poor head. It made me sad. Why, why, why in hell have we as mothers allowed society to make us feeding our children a shameful thing? You would rather sweat to heck, then let your baby be free and drink with his momma??
I do not judge and I know everyone is not comfortable with being exposed, but for the love of St. Pete can we feed our children without being afraid of a nip slip? Why, oh why, can the whores of Hollywood show every last stitch of skin, but I can’t show myself while feeding my child without public shame? They “look on point, dresses be on fleek” (don’t even ask), look (so-called) amazing, while showing almost the exact same thing as I, but I am “disgusting, disrespectful and need to put on a blanket?”
C’mon people ! This is the biggest load of horse shit and I just don’t understand. So for anyone reading this, regardless of your thoughts on public breastfeeding, please just think; think before you judge; think before you gawk; think before you say ” I would blah, blah, blah”. Your actions and interactions with moms create situations like the one above.
As I always say… Let’s lift others up, be kind, be good and be nice!