What happens as life “gets in the way?” How do you do keeping up with friends as you get older? is often said that you are born into your family but you choose your friends. You literally get to pick people that may one day turn into family! Your friends are special because you have found something in each other worth getting to know. Here are some ways to make the most of these relationships and keep them going. Let’s chat about keeping up with friends.
Put In the Effort
Having friends often begins based on fun times together, but it takes consistent effort to keep the friendship going. Be willing to put in the effort it takes to maintain any relationship that is worthwhile. Call your friend every now and then. Take you family over to visit with them or maybe go out on an excursion together. Make sure you’re taking the time to listen to their problems and share in their everyday life. Remember, friendship is a 2 way street.
Don’t Neglect Each Other in the Busy Times
I certainly get it! Life can get so hectic. Don’t neglect your friendship even when you are at your busiest times. You may not be able to get together for a weekly pedicure date anymore but maybe you can FaceTime over a beverage. Yes…that’s something I do!
Don’t Break Your Friendship over Insignificant Issues
So many friendships break up over little squabbles that cannot even be recalled. Don’t make the mistake of sacrificing a strong friendship simply because you had one insignificant disagreement. If you’re head strong like I am, this will be a struggle but its worth it. Keep on discussing, resolve your issues and choose to compromise so that you can continue to build a friendship that will stand the test of time and petty disagreements.
Treat Each Other Like Family
Remember how I said you literally get to pick people that can become like family? Some of the best friendships throughout one’s life are with those folks. I have several friends I’m lucky enough to have known for YEARS. My friend pictured above is “Aunt Tippy” to my kids. We have shared special occasions, divorces, births and many holidays.
Open Up to Each Other
A friendship can only go so far on a surface level. A friend who shares what is on their heart with you will begin to close up again if you never reciprocate or even worse….gossip. Even if you are not the type of person to offer personal information freely, intentionally open up every now and then to your close friends about the deep parts of your life. This kind of sharing creates ties that last.
Share Memorable Moments
Do activities together that you will remember forever. Whatever you both enjoy and have time for, make it happen. Whether it’s a spin class, a movie at the theater that you have both been waiting for, or a camping trip in the mountains… build those memories together. I have plenty of stories that I would never tell in public but can with my friends about LOL.
Friendship is a two-way street. By implementing these tips into your friendships, keeping up with friends as you get older will be easy. Your relationships will grow and be nurtured on a regular basis. Make the most of your relationships and everyone will benefit from it on a long-term basis.
